i just made 7 loaves of banana bread with my mom...
... 2 of them have chocolate chips in them.
josh and i were watching a tv show the other night. it was about the process that movies go through to become formatted for television. they showed examples of how much of a movie gets lost when it gets cut from widescreen to full screen. it's quite disturbing, actually. and i agree with the host who said that it completely perverts the director's intention. almost as if you are seeing an entirely different motion picture. think of the time and care that a director puts into each shot, and then imagine that shot chopped in half. the plot is still the same. but the art is almost entirely lost.
as a youth group leader, i've been part of a few discussions with my young people over the years regarding sex. i've read plenty of books on the topic and am always looking for new creative ways to talk to them about it. the church hasn't really done a bang up job with this discussion in the past. most of my kids say the primary reason they don't want to have sex before they're married is because of the immense guilt they would feel. not exactly the healthiest way to go about it, i don't think. instead of listing all the reasons why they shouldn't have sex before they're married, (which they've heard a thousand times before, anyway) i think we need to talk to them about the reasons sex and marriage go together. why wait? it can't just be about pregnancy, disease and guilt. why did God design sex in the first place? what is it for? why does it not only belong in a marriage, but also make sense only within a marriage relationship.
laura winer does a great job of explaining some of this mystery in her book, real sex. springboarding off of many of her ideas, i came up with an analogy that i thought might work to help explain the concept to young people.
sex before marriage is like a movie edited for content and formatted to fit onto a tv screen.
sex is the movie. God is the director. he created sex. he designed it. he took great care in creating human bodies especially for it. sex within marriage is the movie as its director intended it. a movie edited for content and formatted to fit a tv screen is a perverted version of its original. sure, the characters are the same. the plot doesn't change. and you might even derive some of the same general pleasure from watching it. but something central to the movie is and will always be missing. no, i don't usually feel "guilty" for watching movies on television. in fact, sometimes i even enjoy it. and most people who choose to have sex outside of marriage probably don't feel all that guilty about it either. and if what we see on television is any indication, they certainly seem to enjoy it. it's still sex, afterall. but in the same way that a person who loves watching movies should want to respect the artist's intention for them, people who love the Ultimate Creator should want to respect his intentions as well. a real movie can only be truly experienced in widescreen. real sex can only be truly experienced within a marriage relationship. why would we want to settle for anything less?
josh and i were watching a tv show the other night. it was about the process that movies go through to become formatted for television. they showed examples of how much of a movie gets lost when it gets cut from widescreen to full screen. it's quite disturbing, actually. and i agree with the host who said that it completely perverts the director's intention. almost as if you are seeing an entirely different motion picture. think of the time and care that a director puts into each shot, and then imagine that shot chopped in half. the plot is still the same. but the art is almost entirely lost.
as a youth group leader, i've been part of a few discussions with my young people over the years regarding sex. i've read plenty of books on the topic and am always looking for new creative ways to talk to them about it. the church hasn't really done a bang up job with this discussion in the past. most of my kids say the primary reason they don't want to have sex before they're married is because of the immense guilt they would feel. not exactly the healthiest way to go about it, i don't think. instead of listing all the reasons why they shouldn't have sex before they're married, (which they've heard a thousand times before, anyway) i think we need to talk to them about the reasons sex and marriage go together. why wait? it can't just be about pregnancy, disease and guilt. why did God design sex in the first place? what is it for? why does it not only belong in a marriage, but also make sense only within a marriage relationship.
laura winer does a great job of explaining some of this mystery in her book, real sex. springboarding off of many of her ideas, i came up with an analogy that i thought might work to help explain the concept to young people.
sex before marriage is like a movie edited for content and formatted to fit onto a tv screen.
sex is the movie. God is the director. he created sex. he designed it. he took great care in creating human bodies especially for it. sex within marriage is the movie as its director intended it. a movie edited for content and formatted to fit a tv screen is a perverted version of its original. sure, the characters are the same. the plot doesn't change. and you might even derive some of the same general pleasure from watching it. but something central to the movie is and will always be missing. no, i don't usually feel "guilty" for watching movies on television. in fact, sometimes i even enjoy it. and most people who choose to have sex outside of marriage probably don't feel all that guilty about it either. and if what we see on television is any indication, they certainly seem to enjoy it. it's still sex, afterall. but in the same way that a person who loves watching movies should want to respect the artist's intention for them, people who love the Ultimate Creator should want to respect his intentions as well. a real movie can only be truly experienced in widescreen. real sex can only be truly experienced within a marriage relationship. why would we want to settle for anything less?
posted by sara at 4:37 PM
3 Comments:
wow, you're very smart to think of that analogy!
i didn't even know you had a blog! i can't believe josh didn't tell me. now i have a lot of reading to catch up on, but i'm looking forward to it. now, can i have some banana bread? with chocolate chips, of course...
wow! brilliant! my tactic was to just beat kids over the head with guilt and the fear of AIDS.... but this! this is genious! :) oh, and can i have some banana bread too?
wow you must really like movies! I agree with your analogy, and I would like to help you find this show that we saw...
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